Quite interesting that the dictionary and thesaurus don’t think grace has a thing to do with forgiveness. What is grace? I love my personal idea of grace, and it is fine if you don’t agree.
I’ve heard about grace all my life. As a kid what you said before a meal, while learning manners and etiquette, in finishing school, as a debutante, and in religion. Grace is strength and depth of character. Grace you afford yourself, and you extend to others when they break you or others in some way.
The grace of a ballerina, a skier, or a runner is magnificent beauty at work, but it can’t occur without a huge amount of strength, composure, determination, and forgiveness. Why forgiveness? Think about grace. To absorb shock – contact with the ground – your body must forgive. Take and absorb the blow. In life, it is just the same. Just like a downhiller, you move in a way that is strong and sleek and take in life’s road bumps. Our knees better be nimble for the shocks. If you can flex and extend with life the way a downhiller does, or an SUV off-road, your life is going to be a whole lot better I assure you.
One way to go about this is to prepare well. Set your mind that you are pure beauty, strength and power, and that you will bob and weave with life like an elite athlete. Nothing is going to throw you off your game, ever. Many ask me how I have gone through certain experiences in my life, and it is with power of mind and body that has allowed me to be resilient to charge ahead. This week, the person that brought my 3 children into the world asked me just how I’ve done it all these years, and how it is possible to be at such a place of peace. I said it was the athlete, and much was born in the blood. She said, I need to write the full story, especially about the last 14 years. Ah, well I’ll need convincing that this would help a lot of people.
For now, lean in and figure out how you create grace for yourself – powerful, mighty, spirited. Long, lean and stunning. Shine – every single person is meant to. Tell someone else how they shine, and how you care. When someone breaks your heart or devastates your expectations, do not let go. Lean in. Think. What do you want for real? Do you have the strength to forgive, to extend grace to someone and yourself to persevere in any situation? Can you go deeper to look beyond something that could hurt a lot, to see you have to go beyond your threshold of pain to get where you want to go? I am willing to share one thing from my experience of pain in life that only comes from years and acquired wisdom. Go deeper. Go deeper into the pain, into the unknown, don’t fear it, find out what is at heart center, let that be your only guide. Trust yourself. Do things nobody else thinks you should. It is worth doing because the worst thing that can happen is to react to pain quickly and lose things you are willing to fight for in your life. Athletes do. This is grace.